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Valentine's Day Article - "No Reason To Hate Valentine's Day"

Some people love it, some people hate it! Regardless, Valentine's Day is celebrated in some form or fashion in most countries. In the 18th century, Valentines were hand written love notes on hand made cards. In the 19th century, Valentines cards became popular and started to be assembled in factories. In the 20th century it was blown into a huge commercialized "holiday" by American culture, which included billions of greeting cards being sold, the addition of exchanging gifts of all kinds, and the pressure to have romantic evenings with a loved one.

photo credit: © Robin Francom | Dreamstime.comWith that being said, and us being human, you can see how Valentine's Day went from the desire to simply let someone know how much you love them, to wondering if your loved one will be getting you something special - and making big plans - for Valentine's Day.

When you stop to think about it, by taking a regular day and giving it the title of "Valentine's Day," it really can cause one a lot of stress emotionally and financially, and possibly leave someone feeling very depressed. For a spouse that is in a marriage being tested by emotional divorce, physcial separation, or may be newly divorced - it is a tough time to get through. Feelings of "it shouldn't be this way" and "why me" abound, and extreme jealousy and bitterness may build up inside you because of your spouse's adulterous affair partner getting what you feel you should be getting - attention, gifts, love, affirmation, etc. After all, you're the one that's "put up with" you spouse all these years, through good and bad.

If the last paragraph describes your situation, I'm here to say it's not about you, or your selfish spouse, or the other woman or other man in their adulterous relationship. It is, however, a matter of the heart - your heart and its desire to live as a doer of the Word of God. (But don't just listen to God's Word. You must do what it says. Otherwise, you are only fooling yourselves. James 1:22)

God has commanded us to love one another, not just on February 14th each year, but every day of every year. (This is my commandment: Love each other in the same way I have loved you. John 15:12) When you get to heaven, you will not be asked about the money you spent on cards, jewelry, stuffed animals, chocolates, etc. as Valentine's Day gifts. You will be asked what you did to show love to the unloved and forgotten, for the unloveables, for your neighbors, for your parents, for your children (the gifts God gave you), as though they were each Jesus Himself. (The King will answer and say to them, 'Truly I say to you, to the extent that you did it to one of these brothers of Mine, even the least of them, you did it to Me.' Matthew 25:40)

I challenge you to get out there and share some love, not just on Valentine's Day, but every day. No matter what day of the year it is, when you hand a homeless person something - wish them a Happy Valentine's Day and remind them that Jesus loves them. When you make a meal for a friend in need and drop it off, add a Bible verse to the package and remind them how much Jesus loves them. If you can knit or sew, make some blankets or scarves to give to a shelter, or send with missionaries to take and share in their travels, and include a tag with scripture and a note to remind them that Jesus loves them. Take the time to love on your children and pets, pray for them as they sleep next to you, remind them that Jesus loves them too.

It's no doubt that you will save yourself heartache on Valentine's Day if you get your mind off of self, and onto serving others for Christ. But I want to remind you to do something special for yourself too; take the time to sit with your Bible open and read Ephesians, and continue to read your Bible daily, not just on February 14th. It's the gift that keeps on giving. The Word of God is Alive! Let it fill your soul with love and grace, and surround you with protection and peace. Write a note for yourself right now.... "Jesus Loves ME" and tuck it somewhere that you will get a peek at it daily to be reminded of "that special someone" Who gave His life for you so you can spend eternity with Him.
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After all - the ultimate "Valentine's Day" gift was made available for all living humans on a day that we call "Easter." The living sacrifice of Jesus' death on a cross, for my sins and yours, is a gift that no one else can buy, make, or give to you. It's the most beautiful gift given to any living human directly by the God that knows every hair on your head and has collected all of your tears in a bottle.

Most important - if you've never accepted the gift of Jesus as your personal Savior, there's no time like the present. Pray this prayer and tell a friend about your new start on life.

Father, thank You for the free gift of eternal life. I know I am a sinner and need Your forgiveness. I am sorry for my past sins, and I ask You to forgive me.
Jesus, I believe You died on the cross for my sins and arose from the dead. I now open the door of my heart and invite You to come into my life.
I realize there is nothing I can do to earn my salvation, and I place my complete trust in You alone for eternal life.
I choose to follow You as my Lord. Please make me the person You want me to be.

"Three things will last forever - faith, hope, and love - and the greatest of these is love." ~ 1st Corinthians 13:13

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I have been S from my H for 2 years. We have 3 children, S8, S13, and D16.
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  OM  = Other Man   AM  = Adulteress Man   H  = Husband   LBS = Left behind spouse
  D = divorce or daughter   S = son or sister or separated   XW  = ex-wife   GF = Girl Friend
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