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The Beatles sang, "I Get By With A Little Help From My Friends", and that is so true. Regular Chat Room attendees become like a family to each other. Everyone is in the "Same Boat", just at different stages of their journeys. So, everyone is able to offer input, encouragement, and help to the group in their own special ways. Many friends send very helpful emails to be shared, and so we would like to post some of them here for all to benefit from. Enjoy.

"Thorns" sent in by Chat Room Friend, "BlueSky"





Sandra felt as low as the heels of her shoes when she pulled open the florist shop door, against a November gust of wind. Her life had been as sweet as a spring breeze and then, in the fourth month of her second pregnancy, a "minor" automobile accident stole her joy. This was Thanksgiving week and the time she should have delivered their infant son. She grieved over their loss.  


Troubles had multiplied.  

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Sent to inspire us all by Chat Room Friend "Tamashii"

Subject:  FW: Thursday's Daily Bread


READ:  Matthew 7:7-11

If you . . . know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask Him! -Matthew 7:11

With a handful of Cheerios, I tip-toed across the deck in my backyard trying to sneak up on the fish in the pond. Perhaps it was my shadow on the water . . . or maybe I wasn't as sneaky as I thought. As I approached the railing, 15 enormous goldfish raced toward me, their large mouths frantically opening and closing in eager anticipation of an expected treat.

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"Lighting The Path Home", From Chat Room Friend "DA"

This letter will give you a little more insight into what goes on in these prodigal's minds. "DA" has returned to his wife to restore their marriage.
Hi all,
I hope you don’t mind yet ANOTHER email from me. I make sure I go back and read the chat room logs as often as I can to keep up with what has been happening in your lives and marriages. So many of you demonstrate such a spirit of compassion and understanding toward one another. It is truly humbling to see how God has strengthenedyour hearts through all the turmoil and trials you have had to endure. I wanted to just thank you. Thank you for being so faithfuland for continuing to love in the face of such rejection from your loved ones. As new people join the "group", I see many of the same questions come up that those of you that have been dealing with this for some time have already had to address and come to terms with. And I see the gentle hand you use in trying to communicate what you have learned with those who want to understand so badly. Keep up the good work. It is sowing good things for the future of so many.

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"What you feed will grow." From Chat Room Friend "DA"

Let me share the following for those wives who are hurting so badly... it was given to my own wife during her painful battle.


"What you feed will grow."
Betrayal takes many forms.
Some have been betrayed with pornography or prostitutes, fantasies with which we can't compete. For some of us, the other woman takes on many faces - one night stands, the co-worker, our best friend, or faceless names on the internet.
All forms of sexual betrayal reflect unhealthy emotions in our partner. And because we are touched by it daily, we, too, become emotionally unhealthy. Our illness shows itself in many ways also. We obsess, we rage, we stalk, we withdraw, we bury ourselves in denial or work. The one unavoidable constant is our pain.

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