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Family Talk with Dr. James Dobson

Family Talk with Dr. James DobsonListen to an inspiring broadcast from the "Family In Crisis" series with Dr. James Dobson.

Part 1 with
Dr. Jim Conway

Dr. Jim Conway, a man of great faith, was shaken to the core on the day his 16-year-old daughter Becki lost her leg to the ravages of cancer.   We’ll peer into a father's broken heart as he asks, “Can we really believe Romans 8:28?   Do ‘all things work together for good?’”   His answer will inspire you today.

 

Part 2 with Jim's daughter,
Becki Conway-Walters

CANCER — the word itself can cause us to wince. In part one we heard from a father who watched his teen daughter battle with the devastation caused by this disease. Now you’ll hear from the young woman as she takes the microphone to share her own thoughts. Her perspective just might surprise you!

Here's a great explanation of Spiritual Warfare, and how we should look at it.

"The Over-Belief Of Spiritual Warfare"

January 25, 2010 by Matthew Gillogly

  

Click on the following link, or copy and paste it into your web-browser;

http://www.christianbusinessdaily.com/833/spiritualwarfae.htm

Holidays are tough......(Suggestions from Jim to help you through this time of year.)

 

Holidays are tough for people in unhappy marriages when everyone else seems so happy. Depression is higher during the holidays than any other time of year. It's important to make plans and be proactive.   Don’t allow yourself to be overwhelmed, lonely, and depressed. Doing these types of activities helps change your brain chemistry, which enables you to cope with life better.

 

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Jim - Name 1 thing that will help our children get through this.

[11/24 18: 27] "Cheyanne":   Jim, if you could name the 1 thing that will help our children through this time of separation and divorce.

[11/24 18: 36] JIM CONWAY:   "Cheyanne", teens and children need to know that your marital troubles are not their fault. They also need to know that both of you love them very much. Begin to identify several character traits about your children which you admire and then do 3 things:   1) put your hand on their shoulder or arm, 2) look them in the eye, 3) speak a verbal affirmation of encouragement to them.

Why should I change first?

6:32 "sky": Jim. he is the one going through this , but I have to change?

6:37 Dr. Jim Conway [Administrator]:   "sky": At midlife everybody is changing -- so I’m asking you to join the change process for the purpose of rescuing your marriage and producing a better "you". It never hurts to grow and change spiritually.

Check out this author! Jill Briscoe has some great books you should see.

Look for these books by Jill Briscoe, "The Deep Place Where Nobody Goes; Conversations With God on the Steps of My Soul" Also, "God's Front Door: Private Conversations". And, "Faith Dancing, Conversations in Good Company". Jan and I heard Jill Briscoe speak at a conference this last week.   She is a wonderful author and speaker. You can find her books through our MLD Amazon store:   CLICK HERE.

FAQ - I can't stop wondering about what's going to happen.

Remember that Jesus taught us not to worry about what tomorrow might bring -- or even to worry about the past.   He told us we had enough responsibilities in today -- focus on today.   If one of your tendencies has been to try to have everything figured out way ahead of time.   Rather, imagine that you are on an adventure walking through the woods.   You can't be sure of what you will see -- beauty, new plants or trees, a busy squirrel, or you might even run into a skunk.   But treat all of it as an adventure -- and walk all of your adventure with God beside you.

-- Dr. Jim Conway

FAQ - Why does my husband keep going back and forth between me and the other woman?

Think of it as if you have seen a wonderful dress for sale, but you’re not sure if you like it enough to pay the price that is required - so you visit the store off and on trying to make a decision whether to buy it or not. Your husband is trying to decide whether to leap back into the marriage.

FAQ - Will my husband ever tire of the other woman?

Think of an oak tree which holds its leaves through the entire winter.   But when spring time comes, the new growth and new leaves push the old leaves off.   Keep focusing on growth and change and the other woman will be pushed off as an old leaf.

-- Dr. Jim Conway

Carrots, Eggs, & Coffee!

Carrots, Eggs, & Coffee!

A carrot, an egg, and a cup of coffee...You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again.

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up, She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, ' Tell me what you see.'

'Carrots, eggs, and coffee,' she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hardboiled egg

Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, 'What does it mean, mother?'

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they   had changed the water.

'Which are you?' she asked her daughter. 'When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest  do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling.

Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

-Author Unknown

FAQ - How do I recognize God's Will?

How do I know if what I think and feel are God's will and not my own?

That's a great question that many people wonder about. The easiest way to separate the two is to have a daily quiet time where you are reading the Bible in a quiet place with your heart open to God. John 15, Jesus used the example of a branch growing out of the side of a tree. As the branch stays connected it receives nourishment and life. When it is disconnected, then it is on it's own and it will die.   So let me suggest this:

1) Get a modern translation of the Bible (New Living Translation).

2) Sit in a quiet place without distractions.

3) Speak to God as you would a friend, "God, I am here to learn from You, I deliberately open myself up to you, I set aside distractions and I ask you to teach me now as I read the Bible"

4) If you're new at this, start reading with the Gospel of John. The purpose of reading is not to cover lots of verses or chapters - it is to let God speak to you.

5) Read very slowly phrase by phrase watching for the words or phrase to almost jump off the page into your mind - you will definitely know that these words are important words for you today.

6) Stop and ask God what these words mean for your life now and what actions you should take because God has brought these words to your attention. As you reflect on these words with God, you will find that God is leading you to perhaps, things in the past, or that you are now facing, or that may come up as you go through this day.

7) Now write down the words that jump out to you and what your discussion was with God. You will notice over a period of weeks that God will be steering your mind in the directions that He wants you to go - you will be able to objectively see on paper how God has been guiding you day by day. I know this works because I've been doing it for years.

 

--Dr. Jim Conway

FAQ - Is taking medications ok?

I know that many people have trouble temporarily using meds, but it is the same kind of thing that we do when we go to the dentist - we have a toothache - we go to the dentist - he injects our jaw with pain numbing chemicals - he fixes the tooth - and we go home and our jaw returns to normal. Meds can be helpful with emotional struggles, the same as with a tooth problem.

-- Dr. Jim Conway

Mother Theresa

"I am like a pencil in God's hand. God does the writing; the pencil has nothing to do with it."
--Mother Theresa

From C.S. Lewis

"I believe in God as I believe the sun has risen; not because I can see it, but because  I can see everything else."
--C. S. Lewis